Come check them out, ask more questions, request a tutorial or guide, or maybe give some answers? There is still almost a whole month to go on the activity. Lots of time to think up questions or go looking for tutorials.
Over the last month, some more new comms have been created. Yay!
Welcome back to Stuff We Like, a regular column where we shop and share items we think you’ll love. By reader request, I’m building a Stuff We Like series on one-bag packing and tools to help you organize and travel light.
You’ll need to be signed in to Google.com using your Gmail address. Once you’re logged in, click the link above to view a copy of the spreadsheet.
Important! The above link is view-only, but you can save a copy of the sheet for yourself. Here is what you should do.
Click the link! Magic, these internets, I tell you.
The spreadsheet shall appear!
Click FILE, and then Make a Copy:
Name the copy or leave the name as-is, and save to your Google Drive:
That copy is yours, and you can edit it as much as you like – and you should, to make it useful for your travels!
Do I use this on a computer or do I print it out?
It’s up to you, but for most family trips, I print it out and cross off, highlight, and add things to the page as I go. I’ve also printed copies for my sons to let them pick out the clothing and items they need.
There is a small space next to each item, and you can either specify a number for items needed, or put a “Y” for “Yup, I totally packed that.” Again, do what makes you feel comfortable and prepared!
This packing list has spaces for two adults and three children. What if I have more than three children, or less than three? Or a surfeit of adults?!
Easy! You can add a column to the spreadsheet. Here’s how.
Click the letter at the top of the column where you’d like to add space for another person.
Click the tiny dropdown arrow next to the column letter:
Click “Insert 1 right” to make another column appear!
Make sure to do this twice so you have a column for the item itself, then a column to indicate how many or to check it off the list.
You can add individuals — adults, children, or pets or whatever you need!
Ready for a tour? Let’s do this!
Let’s start with the obvious part: Essentials! This packing template is similar to the Calm Traveler Business Packing list in that you identify essentials first – this time for everyone in your family:
My essentials are similar to the prior template – mouth guard, medication, Epi-pens. The same rules apply: essentials are the most important, irreplaceable, absolutely necessary personal items you need to have for this trip, and every trip. If it’s crucial and hard to replace, it’s an Essential.
You’ll note that for the kids, “bear,” “teddy,” and “dolly,” are essentials alongside “passport” and medications and inhalers. Essential has a wide definition when kids are involved!
If your children or your adults have more essential items than there is room for here, you can easily add rows to the packing list by right-clicking on the row number and clicking “Insert 1 above.”
Then, we come to Toiletries and Miscellaneous for each person.
Pretty self explanatory. As I mentioned in my last post, my toiletry bag stays mostly packed, and I’ll be going into more detail about that later. But for this trip, I’m assuming everyone will need sunscreen (unless you like to buy at your destination) and bug spray. I put “period supplies” in italics because you don’t always need to bring them, but if you do, you’ll want some with you!
Each person has their own water bottle on this list, though in my family, unless someone is ill, we share one. Obviously everyone has their own toothbrushes and hairbrushes, but only one child’s list has toothpaste – unless you have finicky toothpaste users, one tube should work fore everybody, and a small one at that! And if folks like their own toothpaste, that’s cool. It’s not like it’s a piano and takes up all the room in the bag, right?
Unlike the Business Traveler Template, I don’t have outfit planning on this template, because much of the time, vacations may not require outfit planning. This sample template I envisioned for a trip somewhere with a beach or pool, mostly casual, with three kids. I’m also assuming no laundry facilities – hence 7 pair of underwear.
The method in which you’re traveling also influences how much you bring. Checking multiple bags can get awfully expensive, so consolidating and requiring items to do double-duty means fewer pieces of luggage. Double-duty means larger items can be worn more than once. Some t-shirts can be worn twice, or in some cases washed and hung to dry if you’re somewhere for more than a week. Merino wool and travel fabric t-shirts are great for this, and there are excellent ones available new and used. I have a separate entry on travel clothing coming soon!
And, if you can do laundry, you can bring less! This is awesome. I love when a place we stay on vacation has laundry facilities. But even if there isn’t laundry options nearby, shorts and some shirts can be re-worn, especially if you’re going somewhere that you’ll be spending a lot of time in swimsuits.
Though you can wash undergarments in a sink and hang to dry, they don’t take much room. Everything else I presume will be open to being worn twice, unless one person is like OH HECK NO. This does happen, as I well know, so you can adjust accordingly.
What’s the special pink section at the bottom?
This is the clothing you’ll wear while you travel – shorts or sweat pants, shirts, maybe hoodies if you’re always cold like I am. Sneakers take up a lot of room in luggage, so I wear them when I travel, especially on airplanes (also I don’t like walking barefoot through TSA).
When I travel with my family, I typically look at the actual travel part of the trip as a separate thing to plan for. On this template, it’s a section apart from the destination and items we’ll need there. This is especially true if the journey involves a flight or a long drive.
Items I need during the trip go in this section. If it’s a long car ride or series of flights, I might bring Anker batteries to recharge devices, and I might have a separate snack list if we’re driving all day.
One of my kids can get carsick, so I pack Dramamine. We also have bags stashed in our cars, but if we’re going somewhere and we’re not in our own vehicles, I’ll add “bags” to this list in case we need them.
Pretty self explanatory. If I plot out the weather (and any major things we’re doing, like rafting or going on a tour or something) I know what to expect while we’re gone and I don’t have to go looking for that info while I’m packing. It’s already here.
This is a separate list area for anything you need that doesn’t quite fit in the other sections. Laptop, camera, knitting (although I know for the knitters, that goes under “Essentials”). Items for keeping young humans busy, like coloring books and crayons, stickers, or activity books, that kind of thing, could also go here.
The other items are sort of obvious – a deck of cards, UNO, games – anything that travels well that your family enjoys? Bring it. We tend to play a lot of card games in the evenings when we’re on vacation.
There are some electronic accessories in this section, as I tend to think of watching movies or playing on tablets as “activity” rather than “miscellaneous,” though these two items could go in either location.
The “Four USB Plug” is this plug here:
I tend to bring one of these with us because it turns that one really convenient outlet into a charging portal for everyone.
And if that’s not a good option, I also sometimes travel with a “squid” style power trip:
I don’t typically fly with one of these but if we’re driving somewhere, I bring one. It’s the more-useful cousin to a power strip, and turns one outlet into a Mega Charging Station (sounds like something out of Power Rangers, right?) for devices, phones, etc.
If you need to plot your outfits for specific days of your family trip, you can easily use the Miscellaneous section for that. And if there are items your family needs that aren’t easily added to this template, you can add as many columns and sections as you need. This is meant to be customized, and I’d really like to hear from you about how you’d alter this template to suit your needs!
I’d said in the last entry that I’d write next about what I pack my clothing in – but I had so many requests for family travel with so many of you planning trips that I moved this up. So I’ll be back with packing advice and accessories. There are so many choices – packing cubes, compression bags, plastic pouches – and I’ll share my research into what works really well for me. I’ll also be sharing my master Toiletry Bag list, too.
If this series is completely your catnip, please consider signing up for the Organization Academy mailing list. I send out weekly tips on digital and personal organization, and I send templates and guides like this one to the group early, too.
I hope this template helps present and future you and your family. If you have questions or suggestions, absolutely let me know!
What are your must-haves when you travel with your family?
Title: Harry Potter, Wardsmith. Part 25. Author: twisted_miracle Team: Death Eaters Word count: 100x4 Characters/pairings: Harry/Draco Challenge: mend Rating: PG Disclaimer: They aren't mine, they belong to the clever Scottish lady. I just bend them and love them. Please don't smack me for playing. It isn't like I am going to earn any money from this( Read more... )
Sorry for the delay, but after some tweaking it looks like we've got 3 pinch hits and no one without a potential recipient. Assignments will go out in a few minutes and the pinch hits will be sent out tomorrow evening when I get home from work.
Title: Fractures and Echoes Fandom: Marvel Cinematic Universe/ Avengers movies Written for MCU Rolling Remix 2017 (but not actually a remix since this was the original source story!) Characters: James Rhodes, Tony Stark, Steve Rogers, Natasha Romanoff, Sam Wilson Rating: Teen (Language, Canonical Character illness and death, gratuitous DJ Khaled) Word count: 2731 Also available on AO3 Summary: Between "Age of Ultron" and "Captain America: Civil War," divisions are starting to appear in the team, while history catches up with them. Thanks to muccamukk for beta reading.
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Another day, and I am beginning to suspect that the hamster is on vacation. What have you been doing?
— Thinking. Maybe a little, maybe a lot. — Writing. — Planning and / or researching. — Editing. — Sending things to the beta. — Posting! — Relaxing, taking a break, etc. — Other stuff-ing. Look at the comment.
Meta question: Of the options above, which is your least favorite one to have to pick on any given day?
Today was the big day: we signed the contract with an assisted living facility and got the keys to her room. We can start moving things in immediately, she takes up residence July 12, two weeks from today.
Update re beds: D has decided she wants her full bed in there, at least to start, so it looks like we're not getting a temporary or new bed at this time. Thanks everyone for your suggestions! They were very helpful! Also, she has a week to change her mind about this plan.
After the signing, which was a 2+ hour process, we went out for lunch, then adjourned to her place and measured furniture.
Due to dealing with her move, I'm going to be somewhat hosed over the next two weeks. (If you have a favorite moving company that does small moves on the North Shore, feel free to mention in the comments. I have two recs already, but I could stand to get quotes from one or two more. Also, I feel nervous about trying to book movers in 14 days or less, so want a pool of leads at hand.)
I was hoping to get at least one post out this month, but right now I'm so exhausted I can't see straight, and I have lots of patients tomorrow and part of Friday, which is the last day of the month. We'll see.
The good news is that in the middle of July, whatever my availability had been, it (knock on wood) should be substantially improved. Not only will we be getting D settled, I have a bunch of patients all going on protracted vacations, so my clinical caseload will be temporarily lightened.
Once D is moved, we'll need to start worrying about what to do with her house, but there's no urgency on that. I think that while there's some minimal stuff that we'll get out of the way, G and I are planning on taking a nice break from Dealing With Things And Evacuating Houses for a little while.
Of course, all that goes out the window if D's health takes a turn for the worse – or for that matter if any other emergencies emerge. But right now I'm hopeful that later this coming month I'll be able to be around more and be shoving more posts out the door. Here's hoping.
GUYS. I wanted you to be the first to know. I’ve fallen in love.
Their name is Final Fantasy XV.
I’m? In a?? Video game fandom??????? IT IS SUPER WEIRD. I DON’T EVEN OWN A PS4. I CANNOT INTERACT WITH THIS CANON THE WAY IT’S MEANT TO BE DONE. I AM REDUCED TO YOUTUBE PLAYTHROUGHS AND VERY PASSIONATE TEXTING WITH MY FRIEND WHILE HE PLAYS.
Let me explain.
So I am very aware I’ve barely posted recently -- about three times a month since March, and this last month it FEELS like I’ve barely posted because it’s almost all been about wider-world stuff. (And even then, I’ve been so quiet given what’s happening? Because British politics right now is BANANAS.)
This is mostly because I’ve been working a LOT, and playing pretty hard too. I really want to do a catch-up post on all the RL things, and also about a bunch of the fannish things I’ve been doing (not so much on the writing of fic, sadly -- it’s been pathetic) and etc. Buuut right now I need to tell you about Final Fantasy XV because it is EATING MY HEAD.
I don’t think I’ve ever been this emotionally compromised over a fandom. I cried down the phone to son_of_darkness (aka bestchocobro/sodsta) for the better part of an hour over the ending, and was only comforted when we made kinkfic plans.
It’s so great. Like, it’s incredibly awesome as a canon, and it kinda fits my fic interests and skills (dark kinky porn, romantic kinky porn, and punny banter) to a T. Plus I love reading hurt/comfort, and I’ve barely written it ever but I just signed up for a hc_bingo card because I do wanna write more h/c and this canon is RIDICULOUSLY good for it.
And these CHARACTERS. I love them ridiculously much. There’s this enormous muscled bro who’s so kind and connects with people, and lashes out against his prince when their friend is seriously hurt, and his whole family legacy is shielding the king but it’s impossible. And exasperated, sarcastic, fond, kind Iggy, who cooks for them and is the prince’s adviser and strategist and mum friend, and so hardcore and so practical and so lovely. (He reminds me of Giles in a lot of ways, including the sudden darkness of what he’s willing to do to protect his warrior.) Both these guys are so young and trying to take care of their prince, who’s even younger. Prompto, the best friend, he’s funny and makes awful puns and takes selfies with the daemons they fight; he’s the prince’s only friend from outside the courtly world and he gets crushes on all the girls and he’s screamingly vulnerable. His parents were never home, he was a fat (and self-hating) & friendless kid, he worries that he’s worthless and is desperate to earn his place. That his origins with the enemy nation will be discovered and his friends will reject him. And then the villain tricks his best friend into pushing him off a moving train.
SPEAKING OF. OMG, the main character, Noct. He’s a sarcastic little bitch, and he sleeps all the time, and he hates vegetables despite Iggy’s best efforts, and he has back and leg pain from a daemon attack as a kid, and he had this miserable lonely childhood even as the other kids were desperate to glom onto a prince. And he yearns to play games at the arcade and eat junk food and be a normal kid but he never whines about it. He’s so scared that he won’t be enough, that he won’t be heroic or brave enough to do his duty, but he is, of course he is, he doesn’t flinch. *cries forever*
I LOVE THEM. I want to write h/c for their pain and dark porn for their encounters with the amazing, amazing villain. He’s super manipulative and clever and totally wins through his defeat, and he likes emotionally torturing the heroes and touching their faces and being super-sleazy. He’s a delight.
I have fallen HARD for a new fandom, guys. Not leaving any of my old ones, of course, but WOW.
ASK ME ABOUT IT IN COMMENTS IF YOU LIKE I COULD TALK ABOUT THIS FOREVER RN
The private jet is the detail that really jumps out at everybody. As it should — it’s such an extravagant example of the kind of crassly self-indulgent excess and exploitative corruption at the heart of this story: Meanwhile, a company run by Gary’s wife, Kim Sekulow, has received $6.2m since 2000 in fees for media [Read More...]
Title: Gains 266 Author:enchanted_jae Team: Aurors Character(s): Draco, Narcissa Rating: PG Warning(s): Mpreg Word count: 100 Written for:dracoharry100 Prompt No. 486 - mend Disclaimer: Characters are the property of JK Rowling, et al. This drabble was written for fun, not for profit. Summary: Narcissa has some sage advice.
A new fan campaign is asking Google to honor Jack Kirby, the “King of Comics,” with a Google Doodle on what would have been his 100th birthday. Under the hashtag #doodleforJack, fans are calling on Google to remember the artist and writer who co-created Captain America, the Fantastic Four, the Hulk, Thor, Iron Man, Black Panther, the original X-Men, and more on August 28, 2017.
While white men are certainly well-represented on Google Doodles already, this has been a particularly painful and memorable year for one of Kirby’s most famous creations. Captain America, co-created by Kirby and Joe Simon as a superhero child of immigrants who literally punches Nazis, was revealed in Marvel Comics’ Secret Empire event to be an agent of the Nazi-esque organization Hydra. Fan outrage was swift, loud, and 300% justifiable.
While Marvel has since hinted that Cap may eventually be “redeemed,” fans are unlikely to forget the fact that Marvel turned a character created by two Jewish men, during World War II, into a pretty-much-Nazi. In addition, while the nature of corporate comics necessitates an eventual redemption arc, it will be almost impossible for many readers to ever really get over this change to the character’s core. The Secret Empire reveal changes who Steve Rogers is, and what he represents, in a real way that will make it hard for fans who loved the original vision of the character – the one based on Kirby and Simon’s creation – to reconnect with this new, anti-hero(?) version. The symbolic power of the character has been fundamentally – pardon my French – fucked with.
Given what Marvel has done to Kirby’s intellectual property – from robbing him of royalties to betraying the spirit of one of his most beloved characters – I totally think it’s time to highlight this remarkable artist on August 28. May the Doodle inspire more anti-fascist art, and may the creators of that art be treated with the respect that Kirby was denied.
Infamous Vancouver-area corvid Canuck is up to mischief again. This time, he attacked a postal worker and completely halted the delivery of mail to one neighborhood for months. Canuck has made headlines before for defying societal bird norms with acts like riding the SkyTrain and messing up crime scenes.
Without a doubt, Canuck is the coolest bird on the block. In May 2016 he gained notoriety for stealing a blade from a the scene of a crime, and is well-known to the police for grabbing a computer button straight out of a patrol car. When not living life on the edge of the law, Canuck hops on the Vancouver metro system and swoops down to grab anything shiny. We know that so much badassery has been perpetrated by a single bird because Canuck wears a red tag on one leg, which locals joke is his ankle monitor.
Mail service has finally resumed. But the man who runs the wonderful Facebook group Canuck and I, Shawn Bergman, reported that threats were made to Canuck’s safety because of the mail carrier incident, and that the Canada Post was unhelpful in response to suggestions on how to resolve the situation. Bergman also says that Canuck only attacked because it was nesting season, and the corvid—which are as territorial as they are crafty and brilliant—was protecting his next. Anyway, hopefully the most recent Canuck drama has been resolved, because this bird is my very favorite bird on earth. I’ve been laughing at the above picture for at least the last thirty minutes and I show no signs of stopping. (via Global News, image: Canuck and I on Facebook)
TMS Contributor Zack Budryk wrote a “dark book about revenge,” called Judith! That book got a write-up! You should go and read both of these things. (via StyleWeekly)
The Academy invited 744 new members to join their ranks, including the Chris trio of Evans, Hemsworth and Pratt. We freaked about about the seeming neglect of Pine until discovering that he joined back in 2015. I guess we know who’s the best Chris now. (via THR)
LeVar Burton’s new Podcast is like Reading Rainbow for adults, so it must be essentially perfect. (via Nerdist)
What you spot with your eyes, you murder of Mary Suevians?
BOYS, BYE. Wonder Woman is gearing up to lead the DCEU. Because, of course she is.
As reported by CBR.com, Wonder Woman made $3.9 million yesterday, bringing its domestic total to $325.1 million, allowing it to inch past Suicide Squad. By tomorrow, it’s likely that Wonder Woman will surpass Batman v Superman: Dawn of Justice ($330.4 million) making Diana of Themyscira the Queen of the DCEU.
At least, domestically.
Wonder Woman has been breaking records left and right here in the States. And yet, according to The Hollywood Reporter, the film is doing less well overseas. As of yesterday, Wonder Woman has made $657 Million globally, so “less well” needs to be defined.
As THR explains, “Revenue in the U.S. and Canada accounts for $322 million, or 49 percent of the bottom line, compared with roughly $336 million to date internationally, or 51 percent of total revenue (hardly a poor showing). Still, in many cases a Hollywood tentpole collects 60 to 65 percent of its total take from the international box office.”
So, in this case, “less well” means “compared to other tentpole movies of its type that generally make more of their money internationally than they do in North America.” For example, Captain America: The First Avenger made 52% of its profit internationally. Deadpool made 54% internationally. Meanwhile, Wonder Woman has, as THR puts it, “vastly overperformed in the U.S, which is great, but also makes the difference between its domestic earnings and its international earnings more stark.
Wonder Woman being about a female superhero is certainly a factor in why the film has been received differently overseas. Russia’s Exhibitor’s Bulletin reported that, “Superhero movies with a woman as the main character are rather untypical, which has had some impact on the box office performance of Wonder Woman.” There’s also the fact that overseas audiences place more value on big-name Hollywood actors, so casting Gal Gadot, who was relatively unknown before this role, could also be contributing to the box office.
And what of our largest overseas market, China? Box office analysts there report that Wonder Woman isn’t well known in China expect to hardcore geeks. That, and movies from DC Comics haven’t been able to match Marvel titles there.
This is all very interesting, but what I really appreciate about all this is that Wonder Woman isn’t doing much worse than her male-led DC movies overseas. AND, American audiences have demonstrated that they want more films like Wonder Woman, perhaps indicating that studios wouldn’t need to worry so much about making money overseas if they deliver more films like Wonder Woman for the American movie-going audience to throw its money toward.
Give us what we want, Hollywood, and we will give you all our money.
Dear rarepairfest Creator, I thank you very much in advance for making something for me. This my first time participating in this fest and I am brimming with excitement. I am sure I will love everything that you generously choose to make. Thank you so much for offering to write/draw something in one of these fandoms.
I have made some prompts & suggestions, but please feel free to take things in whatever direction you like and/or include other characters. My DNWs are gratuitous violence, abuse and lack of consent (physical, social, sexual, etc.), sexual situations for characters not of age, on or off-screen. Realism, magical realism & surrealism are all fine. I strongly prefer art with lower ratings; as for fic, wherever the muse takes you.
Yesterday, the Washington Post reported that Donald Trump had fake Time magazine covers, with his face on them, hanging up around his various golf properties/weekend escapes from his current job that he didn’t want. None of us are altogether surprised by the king of shouting, “Fake News!” spreading his own around, but Time was caught a little off guard, and now they want the covers taken down.
That’s pretty understandable, as not only is Trump using them as marketing to puff up his own image at his businesses, but the covers themselves aren’t up to Time‘s standards. Notably, they use Trump’s favorite punctuation—the exclamation point—in more than one location (“Trump is hitting on all fronts … even TV!” and “The ‘Apprentice’ is a television smash!”), whereas Time‘s real covers are a bit more dignified than that, along with other design inconsistencies. Although, at least no more than one exclamation point appeared in a row, which probably took a lot of work on the part of whoever had to convince Trump to tone things down.
The Post reports that at least five of Trump’s clubs feature the fake covers on their walls, so we’ll have to wait and see if any comply with the request to remove them. Why hang fake Time covers, especially when you’ve actually been on the cover? (Though only one time before getting into politics.) It’s hard to say, but you might find a clue in the Post’s rundown of Trump’s actual Time covers, which don’t exactly offer flattering options.
Ever one to be unhappy about such unflattering coverage, Trump took to Twitter again today to blast the Post as “fake news” and complain about the paper’s connection to Amazon, through owner Jeff Bezos. He also complained that Amazon doesn’t pay “internet taxes,” which is basically gibberish. Amazon does charge sales tax, and there’s no such thing as “internet taxes,” unless Trump plans to hit them with some or thinks that’s part of net neutrality or … whatever else he thinks he’s talking about.
Yet again, the person most concerned with “fake news” is the person spreading most of it.
Samantha Bee’s “Fantastic Words and Where Not to Find Them” segment is one of my favorite reactions to this administration’s bastardization of language and the weird, nonsensical stream-of-consciousness that come out of their lying mouths. One part meltdown, one part experimental film, and another part performance, it perfectly captures that weird Twilight Zone feeling I now get watching the news.
It’s an absurdist look at that surreal moment when you have to pause and go, “Di-…did the most powerful man in the nation just say that? Did she just disregard the meaning of that word? Did anyone else see that?” Well, Bee’s segment assures you, no you’re not alone or hallucinating. Those things are really happening and after the exhaustion of reacting with blinding rage, upsetting lament for our country, and stress eating (oh, so much stress eating), how else can you process it but with a terrifying montage and scrapbook of the worst sound-bites punctuated with coordinated statements and laughter?
Tag yourselves. I’m “man laughing with increasing concern.”
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In her VidCon keynote, YouTube personality and Decoded host Franchesca Ramsey made a curious appeal to her audience of internet-video stars: “When it comes to issues that matter in making a real, measurable difference, you don’t always need an audience.”
While acknowledging that she “fucking love[s] receipts” and has “probably spilt more tea than a Starbucks barista during an earthquake,” Ramsey pointed out that some confrontations will produce better results if they take place one-on-one.
“Disagreements are bound to happen, and some people need to get called out,” she said. “But too often when these conversations happen online, a simple misunderstanding or even the most thoughtful critique turns into a performance. It’s no longer about the issue, or even the other person for that matter. It’s all of a sudden about retweets, and likes, and views, and shares – and things get really messy, really quickly. And this has sadly become the new normal, especially on YouTube.”
“Clickbait will build an audience,” she continued, “but it doesn’t necessarily build change. And I cannot tell you how many times I’ve wished I could go back and call someone, or send them an email, or slide up in their DMs in order to squash an issue rather than dragging it out on my timeline. Sure, it takes more work, and you probably won’t get any subscribers out of it, but if that relationship means anything to you, if that issue means something to you, I think it’s actually worth it.”
Ramsey then shared a story about an issue of Decoded, in which she used an ill-advised comparison between public discourse around the Holocaust and public discourse around American slavery. She explained how, while the on-Twitter dragging helped her realize she was wrong, a Skype conversation with one of her critics was ultimately far more illuminating.
I often feel like criticisms of call-out culture can serve as window dressing for the idea that “marginalized people should just shut up,” but I really appreciated Ramsey’s point here. When the relationship with a person is important, or when the issue is one where you really believe the person can come around, it can definitely be worth it to approach them personally, rather than solely on your Twitter feed.
Shaming definitely has its place, especially when it comes to corporations and elected representatives. You don’t owe these powerful entities your compassion and emotional labor. But it’s also true that changing people’s minds and hearts will often require a more personalized, offline effort. And as long as we save that effort for the people and the issues who are worth it, those Skype and DM conversations can be a great tool for change.