Benefits of being queer
Jan. 8th, 2018 11:49 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lokifanYou know, I do think being queer has done wonders for my confidence. Not directly, but – one big thing is that I’m fat, which puts me outside of ~traditional beauty standards. I’m rarely self-conscious about this, but it is a thing, and certainly having put on weight over Christmas it’s a thing. And even outside of that, I occasionally worry that I won’t get to have a long-term relationship where someone’s all about my body and not like ‘her personality is cool, will take body with it’. And that’s even as someone who, ahem, does not particularly struggle to find partners for casual sex, whether friends or the odd true one-night-stand. Yet still, the worry!
But then I can think about all the fat/curvy women I have loved. The women who’re in my Top Five Most Attractive People I've Ever Seen, who make me go unf, who occasionally make it hard for me to concentrate on what they’re saying because I’m terrible. And my extremely sincere attraction to them helps a lot; I really think if I were straight I’d worry that people were being polite or ‘politically correct’ when they talked about attraction to fat female bodies. Because after all the “natural” thing, as media teaches us, is to only like slim women; the media is product of this, and not cause. *throws up* Or possibly I’d worry it was a weird fetish thing or something, a specific, objectifying obsession with fat bodies, because how could that attraction just be, in the same way attraction to slim women is?
But nope :D Not how it is at all, and I get to know that for sure, from being a person who likes women. I don’t have a specific ‘type’ with women: I like femme and butch and everything else, blondes, brunettes and redheads, and all shapes and sizes. And that verrrrry much includes women my size or larger.
(this post brought to you by briefly worrying that my pubic hair is too sparse and that since I just trim it should look like a proper healthy hippy bush. and then remembering I literally cannot imagine giving a single solitary shit about this if it was a sexual partner of mine)
But then I can think about all the fat/curvy women I have loved. The women who’re in my Top Five Most Attractive People I've Ever Seen, who make me go unf, who occasionally make it hard for me to concentrate on what they’re saying because I’m terrible. And my extremely sincere attraction to them helps a lot; I really think if I were straight I’d worry that people were being polite or ‘politically correct’ when they talked about attraction to fat female bodies. Because after all the “natural” thing, as media teaches us, is to only like slim women; the media is product of this, and not cause. *throws up* Or possibly I’d worry it was a weird fetish thing or something, a specific, objectifying obsession with fat bodies, because how could that attraction just be, in the same way attraction to slim women is?
But nope :D Not how it is at all, and I get to know that for sure, from being a person who likes women. I don’t have a specific ‘type’ with women: I like femme and butch and everything else, blondes, brunettes and redheads, and all shapes and sizes. And that verrrrry much includes women my size or larger.
(this post brought to you by briefly worrying that my pubic hair is too sparse and that since I just trim it should look like a proper healthy hippy bush. and then remembering I literally cannot imagine giving a single solitary shit about this if it was a sexual partner of mine)