Ask me anything meme

[lokifan]

To quote likeadeuce: "while I kind of disagree w/ the premise that this is a PROBLEM, or that journaling sites provide an inadequate opportunity to talk about ourselves, I'm posting anyway."

I wasn't planning to do this one, but I've had fun answering other people's, and also my dad's back for four days and I need some distraction from all the questions about my life plans.

The problem with LJ/DW: We all think we are so close, but really, we know nothing about each other. So I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Ask away.

As ever, anon commenting is on and IP logging is off.

Comments

Re: FRANK QUESTIONS LEAD TO TMI

[damerell]

I'm not sure it's fully formed yet, but basically it has to do with how people get the opposite POV slightly wrong, yes (in particular the "awesome in-control" thing when in fact one is generally thinking "help, does she like this, should I go back to the paddle, what do I do next?"). However, I don't read any of your HP slash which is, er, about 90% of what you write, so I haven't actually got that much data yet. :-)

Telling someone what to do is a tricky dynamic, I think...

Re: FRANK QUESTIONS LEAD TO TMI

[lokifan]

To be fair, though, I think that's largely to do with it being porn. Like, sometimes people go for realism, but that's usually in comedy as opposed to stuff that's straight-up aimed at titillation. I mean, my sub!POV stuff doesn't have the specific kinds of uncertainty I would have, at least not usually, for the same reason everyone can deepthroat in smut unless it's virgin!fic.

In one fic, I had dom!Ron try to whip Draco once then give up on it cos he couldn't control it, but that was a characterisation moment - and afterwards he was right back to a particular kind of messed-up domliness.

Re: FRANK QUESTIONS LEAD TO TMI

[damerell]

I don't think it's quite that. It's not realism I'm objecting to the lack of, I don't actually want to read that internal monologue, but even in porn there's a big difference between "this is what I would be thinking if I was an implausibly self-assured top" and "this is what a sub thinks I would be thinking if I was an implausibly self-assured top".